Message 7

Thank you to everyone who has started to read my blog, the numbers seem to be going up and up. Also thank you for your patience with how long it has taken to make this post. i am in the middle of a stint that has me in 5 countries and 9 cities in 19 days and i have been too busy to get back to this as regularly as i plan.



In addition to the length of time I have taken i am going to go off the last topic a bit as well! Just had some valuabale interactions over the last week of my travels and through a few emails from readers that have prompted me to change topic. I will move on with Teach/Train/Coach throughout the week.

We have discussed over the first number of posts to this blogs various attributes of extraordinary people. Unfortunately so many of them can be wasted by people who live in fear. People who live in fear of losing their job are more likely to ask themselves how to keep their job then how to get ahead. The different answers this leads to may be subtle but still powerfull. If a person is afraid of losing more then looking to win their self talk may be completely different in moments of pressure.

If you are someone who is challenged by fear, who thinks you have the ability to be great but is too fearful to make the required steps then what can be done?

Firstly i would reccomend you read the book "Feel the fear and do it anyways" by Susan Jeffers.

Secondly i would reccomend that you start to find some activities that challenge fears you have. I witnessed a powerful transformation in people a few months back when taking part in a day led by Toby Foxcroft of Motivate International. They used the common fear of heights to challenge people to get out of their comfort zone. It had an amazing effect on people and the learning was profound. People faced their fear of heights and then realized how they could apply the same principles to fear of losing or fear of losing control....

Thirdly I would reccomend you spend time on reflecting on the consequences of living with your fears versus pushing out of your comfort zone.

What is the worst that could happen by living in your comfort zone?

A life lacking passion and enjoyment?

Apathy?

Not fulfilling your potential?

What is the worst that could happen by taking on new challenges by pushing to be the best you possible? Of course it is possible that you will not be succesful at every turn. The world is littered with stories of failure but also of people who failed and failed again before succeeding!

I have always found this simple statement to be the source of so much fear disabling power

"I CAN HANDLE IT"

What if i bomb in my next presentation?

What if i lose out on that next contract?

Not only can i handle it, but i can learn from it, get better, and keep moving forward.

Can you handle it?